The whole notion of having enough friends and that you don’t need anymore, is something I’ve heard a few people say over the last few years. And to be honest, I don’t really get it. Maybe it’s because I don’t have a shipping container full of friends that I can just pull out on a whim, or maybe it’s just because I see the benefit in having many friends from different back grounds and with different interests.
I wrote a post called The Red String a few years ago, where I talked about how once I started to see all the friendships I had and looked at the purpose they served, there was less chance of me getting hurt when I put myself out there. You see, I am the type of person who seeks connection, and to me, each friendship serves a different purpose. I have many different groups of friends and am someone pops up, I’m always willing to add to the fold or be added to someone elses.
I look in my phone contact list, my friend list on Facebook and Instagram, and my circles are many. From work friends, to old school friends, my close circle, my mother’s group ladies, the dead bookclub that I’m in, people who I’ve met through blogging, Mum’s from the school yard or the chick that I sit next to at swimming lessons. I figure that if we have something in common, something that we enjoy doing or talking about, surely that could be enough to spark a friendship whether it be in real life or online? I honestly can’t see myself saying to someone that I’ve found commonalities with “Sorry hun, I really like you and all, but really, I just don’t have room in my life for another friend right now. But, hey if there’s an opening one day, if I loose a friend and need a new one, you’ll be the first on my list mmkay?”. It’s really quite absurd to me.
So please tell me, am I the only one who doesn’t really get the whole “I’ve already got enough friends business”? Would love to hear your thoughts?